A couple weeks ago I decided to fly back 'home' to surprise my parents for their
30th wedding anniversary...
On the trip back I started thinking how LOOOOOONG 30 years really is...
Its longer than the internet has been around (imagine life with no internet nowadays)
Its longer than McDonald’s has been around!
Its even longer than my entire life! (I am only 28) WOW.
So that means that this man (my dad) and this woman (my mom) have ONLY been with each other for that entire time...
That literally blew my mind.
In a society were the divorce rate (56%) has a higher percentage of couples separating than staying together, thats a pretty impressive number.
Heck, even 10 years of marriage is an incredible feat but 30 years...?
Those odds are almost like getting hit by lightning AND winning the jackpot on the same day. (Knock on wood).
Then, after analyzing other relationships I took a close look at my personal relationships...
Fact: my longest relationship will be the 3 year contract I just committed to with my Iphone...and even that long term commitment makes me quiver.
My longest relationship with an actual human is 12 months...and I hit that feat twice...
After talking about this scenario with a couple friends of mine (both girls), we came to the conclusion that OUR generations reality has changed, just as the times have changed....
In our parents generation the usual 'lifestyle' was that you get a job (were you worked for 40 years with the same company), then you meet someone and get married, have 2.5 children with a white picket fence and then retire with a pension.
Nowadays people seem to change jobs & partners almost monthly.
There seems to be no longevity in either careers or relationships as people freely seem to jump from one to another like Tarzan swinging from tree to tree through the jungle.
I am not saying what’s right or wrong, I am just saying what is...or...seems to be.
But there was something really sweet & special watching these two people (my parents) recite their wedding vows 30 years later and I was glad I witnessed it.
It even made me re-think my own single status.
(FYI: after the separation from my son Ethan's mother, I never really pictured myself being married or back in a committed relationship agian, but now...I am kind of open to the opportunity of marriage, if it ever arouse ofcourse...heck...even Tarzan got tired of swinging trees solo in the jungle as he settled down with Jane right? ;) Hahah.
I am at the age were alot of people I know are getting married & it's kind of bizzare. I ALSO think its very solid to be solo and not just follow the fads and buy into doing whats 'expected' or doing 'the right thing to do' and just LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO LIVE IT.
If you would like to see some good old fashion fun and see what 30 years of marriage REALLY looks like...watch this video and see what happens...its actually hilarious.
(I recommend watching this video and picturing or visulaizing yourself 30 years from now with your current partner or your perfect picutre of one...time flies...30 years will be over before you know it :)
PS: Watch my dad, hahah! He looks like a deer caught in the headlights...first he forgets the ring then blames it on my mom...and he's wearing his slippers hahah...and listen for the random Iphone commercial sales pitch to the Priest...Classic Carlin's :) Cheers to another 30 years!